“Ten Essential Tips to Deal With Fear/Anxiety as a Rider” (Listeners’ Choice)
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This interview was previously published in 2018
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About This Episode
“Ten Essential Tips to Deal With Fear/Anxiety as a Rider”
Firstly just for this talk let’s assume the horse has a fairly good temperament an is able to more or less do the task you are asking of it.
The other thing to mention is every one feels their own personal journey through these thoughts and feelings. There are no set stages more like a roller coaster with ups and downs as one person’s minor hiccup is another person’s catastrophic event. Gaining the skills and tools to learn how to navigate if for you.
Comparing is often the thief of happiness and can particularly be so when comparing fear and anxiety. Why doesn’t Competitor A have the same thoughts and fears as me. So now my brain has a wonderful excuse to beat myself up about that.
What would I do if fear didn’t matter?
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“Ten Essential Tips to Deal With Fear/Anxiety as a Rider”
1 – Ask yourself three questions
Question 1) Do I want to be doing this?
(in other words, I can walk away if I REALLY want to. I can still do lots of things relating to horses without doing whatever I’m currently trying to achieve)
Question 2) Do I Want to learn to change what I can and accept the rest?
Question 3) Or do I want to stay the same and remain miserable?
2 – Learn to be present and breath
Hear 5 Things, Feel 3 Things
3 – Notice and naming Acceptance Caveman helpful brain
Radio ‘doom and gloom’
4 – Learn to be in touch with my body. Internal Control
5 – What are my Foundation Skills/Fundamental Skills
Quality of canter, line and balance position
6 – What’s in my control and what’s not,
i.e weather/course/other peoples’ mood/ my horses’ mood
7 – Learning how to use my tools and fill my tool box (emergency drills – pilots have check lists and drills) load shedding neurons that fire together wire together.
8 – Little bites of exposure. Tiny workable steps towards goals
9 – Focus and visualisation
10 – The 7 R’s for lasting change
Reminder, Records, Rewards, Routine, Relationships (study buddy), Reflecting, Reconstruction
Time Stamps
00:50 – Background
01:08 – Explaination about how everyone has some degree of Anxiety/Fear
04:13 – 1 – Ask yourself three questions; Q1) Do I want to be doing this
05:08 – Q2) Do I Want to learn to change what I can and accept the rest
05:39 – Q3) Or do I want to stay the same and remain miserable
06:23 – It is your choice
07:10 – 2 – Learn to be present and breath
10:14 – Hear 5 Things, Feel 3 Things
12:16 – 3 – Notice and naming Acceptance Caveman helpful brain
14:12 – Radio ‘doom and gloom’
16:08 – 4 – Learn to be in touch with my body.
17:10 – Internal Control
18:47 – 5 – What are my Foundation Skills/Fundamental Skills – Quality of canter, line and balance position
22:22 – 6 – What’s in my control and what’s not, i.e weather/course/other peoples’ mood/ my horses’ mood
26:21 – 7 – Learning how to use my tools and fill my tool box (emergency drills – pilots have check lists and drills) load shedding neurons that fire together wire together.
29:59 – Visualisation – how can I solve this problem
32:50 – 8 – Little bites of exposure. Tiny workable steps towards goals
35:10 – 9 – Focus and visualisation
36:23 – 10 – The 7 R’s for lasting change – Reminder
37:00 – Records
37:15 – Rewards
37:28 – Routine
38:25 – Relationships – study buddy
38:50 – Reflecting
39:20 – Reconstruction
40:04 – Summary of point 1 to 10
40:50 – Summary of point 2
41:28 – Summary of point 3
42:22 – Summary of point 4
43:01 – Summary of point 5
43:50 – Summary of point 6
44:47 – Summary of point 7
45:35 – Summary of point 8
46:38 –Summary of points 9 and 10
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